"It is honorable for a man to stop striving, since any fool can start a quarrel." - Prov. 20:3
Strife can be avoided!
Abraham, our father of faith, AVOIDED strife with Lot his nephew (Gen. 13:7-10)
He was willing to give up something just for peace.
Separate yourself from people who causes strife.
The bible reveals that our faith overcomes the world (1 Jn. 5:4). But strife hinders our faith! Strife in the family or the church is a tool of the enemy that brings division and stagnant! One of the reason Abraham, the father of faith, obtained the promises of God was that he was willing to stop strife and be a peacemaker. In fact, right after Abraham settled the argument in peace, the Lord spoke to him and extended his vision and blessed Abraham with even more! As for Lot, he and his family moved to Sodom and as a result he lost his wife and his daughters committed incest with him. A man who tolerates strife does not have a spiritual mind and discernment!
“Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” (1 Pet. 3:7).
Strife also hinders our prayers. We must do our utmost to be peaceful in our family as to stop strife with love and forgiveness.
"Better is a dry morsel with quietness, than a house full of feasting with strife." - Prov. 17:1
Make your house a place of peace.
"By pride comes nothing but strife, but with the well-advised is wisdom." - Prov. 13:10
Quarrel comes from a spirit of pride
"Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace." - James 3:13-18
Strife begins in the heart. Bitterness and jealousy causes strife that leads to confusion and every evil work.
Strife is a very destructive force.
Strife can produce spiritual and emotional prisons.
Operating in strife demonstrate that you lack the wisdom of God.
As a fruit of righteousness, sow peace!
Strife is food that feeds the evil spirits. Evil spirit torments our mind and imaginations! We are told not to give access to the devil! (Eph. 4:27)
The Holy Spirit is NOT a Spirit of strife, quarrel, dispute and division.
One of the symbol of the Holy Spirit that demonstrates His character:
Dove (The first movement of the Holy Spirit on Jesus) - The Holy Spirit, coming as a dove, is gentle and a symbol of peace.
The dove descends on the lamb - The lamb nature represent humility.
He is gentle and never seeks His own glory - John 16:13-14
TWO WAYS TO DEAL WITH CONFLICTS:
1. Love COVERS a multitude of sin. The love of God grants you the grace to forgive people - Prov. 10:12
2. Confront it with love.
First, our attitude is very important. "Be kind and tender to one another. Forgive each other, just as God forgave you because of what Christ has done" (Ephesians 4:32).
It is then that we are more able to "speak the truth in love" (Ephesians 4:15).
"Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted" (Galatians 6:1).
“Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector. - Matt. 18:15-17
Be a PEACEMAKER not a troublemaker.
Jesus blessed peacemakers and called them the are sons of God! Matt.5:9